Do you ever feel like you are dating in the wrong era?
Technology now gives us new ways of dating and expressing love, from swiping right on Tinder to sharing a few emoji-filled texts with your crush.
For some people though, modern dating cannot be compared to old-fashioned dating. Old-fashioned dating seems more romantic and sweet without mobile phones and laptops.
A small amount of effort goes a long way to improve a date – check out 8 old-fashioned dating ideas that should be revived.
Not using your mobile on a date
Technology rules our lives – and our relationships. Many people feel like their partners spend too much time checking their texts, Facebook, Snapchat and Instagram when they are together, and nothing ruins a date faster than feeling ignored. Putting the phones away gives you a chance to actually have an awesome, meaningful face-to-face conversation.
Picking your partner up before going on a date
None of this meeting at the location – let’s face it, no-one enjoys a lonely bus or car ride alone to their date. You may feel nervous, with butterflies in your stomach, and you may even worry about being stood up. With old-fashioned dating it was customary for the man to pick up his date – and even walk up to her door! This means you get to travel to the date together, and by the time you get there the nerves will be gone and you will both be having fun.
Taking your partner home after a date
Many people today either go home together, or they go home separately. But the date isn’t just a line-up to sex; you could have met someone wonderful who you would love to hang out with again. With old-fashioned dating, it was customary for the man to make sure the woman got home safely. Although women don’t need a man to make sure they are safe, the gesture was very sweet and it gave the couple a chance to talk some more – and maybe even have a romantic kiss in the doorway.
Not following the ‘rules’ of dating
Modern dating is filled with strange rules about when you should call someone after a date, and even when you should sleep with them. With old-fashioned dating, if you liked someone you would simply let them know how much you like them. Why waste time when you’ve met someone you really like? Upfront and honest is always the best method when it comes to love and dating.
Buying each other flowers
There is nothing better than a romantic gesture to show your date that you’ve been thinking about them. Flowers are a classic gift from old-fashioned dating, and they are the perfect way to show someone you like them without spending a crazy amount of money. They also smell wonderful and look beautiful!
Most modern dating destinations mean you have the option to dance, but very few couples do, which is a huge shame. Dancing was an important part old-fashioned dating and it is so much fun. Don’t worry about not having the best moves – dancing with a date is all about making each other laugh while getting intimate!
Taking it slow
Most people know a couple who said “I love you” after two weeks of dating – what is that?! Many people seem to confuse love and lust with each other, resulting in difficult break-ups after expecting too much from each other. Love was slower with old-fashioned dating, so when you fell in love you knew the feeling was real.
Introducing your date to people
Many people nowadays don’t want to talk about who they are dating until it is ‘serious’. They can go on many different dates without their family or friends knowing who the date is. With old-fashioned dating, people were proud of their date, and they happily spoke about them to their loved ones. Let’s face it; it is a little rude if you don’t, and it can leave your date feeling awkward.
Do New Things Together
Do you really like doing the same old thing every week? You can still turn that up a notch or two. When I was growing up my parents had a date night every Saturday and they always went out to dinner. However, they made it a point to always go to a different restaurant, so they were continually trying different types of eateries.
Create a code word for love
Remember the elementary school joke about “olive juice” — say this silly phrase, and your mouth automatically makes the same movements as when you say “I love you.” Find a secret way to express your love that only the two of you understand. It comes in handy if your spouse calls when the boss is standing beside your desk, and creates that “just us” feeling anytime you use it.